Charles Crismier regards domestic violence - forgive and reconcile! Part One
Calls to divorced people that are remarriaged to repent of your sin, and turn from your evil ways. We are not called to be happy but holy in marriage. If domestic violence is happening - make sure its really serious before you leave...but don't divorce! Only leave if it is really REALLY dangerous!
If you are in a Physically Abusive situationâ¦ ANDâ¦Make sure it truly IS a physically abusiveâ¦DANGEROUS!!! I mean really DANGEROUS!! Not just what you call âemotionallyâ dangerousâ¦REALLY, TRULY DANGEROUS! I donât think Jesus expects you to sit in that relationship and in the presence of that DANGERGOUS person until that âthingâ can be dealt with! But that doesnât mean that you have the opportunity to go and divorce the person! There is a difference between not continually exposing yourself in the physical proximity of the person until they are dealt with and DIVORCING THEM! You donât have to divorce them to get out of their presence! DO YOU?? No. And if we are told to forgive than we MUST continually leave ourselves open to RECONILE! In fact what we are called is ministers of reconciliation arenât we?? That is our VERY ministry! And where does that begin? In our marriages!
lamb with broken leg
November 19, 2009
If he truly means to change, he can do it while you are safe!
Your statement "If domestic violence is happening - make sure its really serious before you leave" is ridiculous.
This is terrible advice... read it again. "If domestic violence is happening," it's just that domestic violence. ALL domestic violence is REALLY SERIOUS!! Otherwise it would just be called a dispute, not VIOLENCE. All physical abuse starts with verbal abuse. If someone hears that verbal abuse is occurring, physical is not too far behind.
MY ADVICE IS RUN AWAY! It also says in the Bible to run away from EVIL! These men are truly evil.
I went through four pastors and one counselor, and it got worse and worse.. and these men have to WANT to change... 99% of the time they do not, as they LIKE it too much. I wish I had divorced my husband the first year. I would have protected myself and if he would have changed I would have taken him back.
If he truly means to change he can do it while you are safe.